September 1, 2012
Learn about yourself: Attached
paperback, 273 pages
Published January 2012 by Tarcher
Read July - August 2012
Goodreads, IndieBound, Amazon
I won Attached through a Goodreads giveaway in February. I was reading Going Single (read my review) at the time and decided I needed to take a break before I read a relationship book. The length of time it took me to read it does not truly reflect how easy of a read the book is (I just had a few books take priority and had to put it aside a couple of times).
For a psychology book written by academics, it is a truly accessible read and in a lot of ways enjoyable (it's a touchy subject for me so I did cry quite a bit). In the beginning, it reminded me of The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If you are looking for a book where you can learn about yourself and how to interact with people, I recommend you read Attached.
It is not a book just for those looking for love. Actually, I felt the extended title was a bit misleading. The book focused much more on people who are in a relationship (the "keep" love part of the title is accurate). As one who is not in an intimate relationship, I'm not really even dating, I found parts of the book difficult to apply to my situation.
The opening chapters were great in helping you identify your attachment style and for those wanting a more indepth analysis their is a link to a large questionnaire. I might go back and take the suggested questionnaire, but just the descriptions and short survey in the opening was enough to identify my attachment style.
I recommend reading this book in large chunks and not as spaced out as I did. I became slightly depressed and a felt a bit hopeless towards the middle of the book. I had identified my style and could see the effects it was having in my life, but I did not have the tools to deal with it. The end chapters give you the tools and I did feel better when I finished the book.
If you feel like there is conflict in your relationship or just like to learn more about yourself, I recommend picking up a copy of Attached.